By Rohit Chati, [ Wednesday, December 5, 2007  ]

I am a software engineer and have been working in the IT industry for almost seven years. It all started some years back, when the prime focus of my life was career -traveling abroad and making money.  

The question that was frequently asked by my parents was when do you plan to settle down? In other words, when do you intend to marry?

Difficult to answer but impossible to escape.  

Just then to my rescue came higher education. Well that’s what I thought - let's study and grow and work and yes, the trick actually paid off with the questions starting to die down.

But just then there was mid life crises, when I did not qualify any where for higher education what with all the work load that I had in the software industry. Well that’s the excuse that I have given always and got away with. Guess the real reason is that the "ability to compete" and the "want to compete" comes down with the "need to enjoy".

So now, here I am, back to square one with the same question being asked again.

Now for any given problem in hand you tend to find different solutions for it. You try to find various solutions to it.

Then you realize that different solutions are confusing and lets look at the best fit solution. Yes, this is an engineer with a love for mathematics speaking, about trying to find a solution for love. And among solutions are the matrimonial listings and websites - that are so helpful.

To start of with it's real fun - some one who has never dated women has a choice to select some one who is beautiful and intelligent and meet the person in person. You exchange mails, talk on the phone, meet each other, think a lot about each other and then start putting your thoughts on one another.

You try to talk your way and listen to one another and life really seems a bed of roses.

But then comes the question, whom do you actually commit to? 

Women say men are scared of commitment, don’t push them too much or they will get scared - the bachelor is always in the mans eyes. There are loads of movies as a proof of this.

The man on the other hand has this major complex wondering if he can serve, protect and keep her interested as though he has to serve the nation here.

Things are very simple and we make them complicated by putting in too much thought. I don’t say that we should not think before taking this decision but it's not just about materialistic things, it's about changing and moving on in life.

I don’t want to sound like as though its only the men who have a problem with searching.

The women of today are very intelligent, expressive and better than men in their work and are equally if not better qualified and looking out for a complete life with out compromising on work and money benefits. There is a man in every after life of a women, that’s going to be the new way to go about it.

So, it's back to where are we now and where do we want to go?

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